Habits Forge Who You Are (Part 2/2)

 Part 2: What Invites Chaos Into Our Lives?

Let’s break down what pulls chaos into our orbit, starting with:

Procrastination:
It’s the habit of dodging the hard, important stuff for what’s easy and fun. Tim Urban nails this in his hilarious, spot-on TED talk:

Inside the Mind of a Master Procrastinator | Tim Urban | TED

He introduces:

• The Monkey Mind: Craves instant gratification—easy, fun, now.
• The Rational Mind: Weighs past, present, and future—important, difficult, worthwhile.

When the Monkey Mind grabs the wheel, hours vanish into social media, TV, gossip, or movies. It’s effortless and entertaining, but it weakens your focus, delays your goals, and buries the important stuff. That’s chaos creeping in—because the big things we ignore shape our results and reality, for better or worse.

When the Rational Mind takes over, you tackle the hard, meaningful tasks. Everyone faces them, but those who embrace them—whether chasing financial, social, or physical goals—build lives of purpose and bliss.

Reading books or blogs might feel boring and hard, but it sharpens your edge for opportunities others miss or can’t get. Exercise sucks sometimes, yet it fuels your energy and strengthens your mind. Reviewing and planning your day, month, or year? Difficult!—but it ensures you have direction, and you are solving the right problems.

Ignore this, and you risk drifting past a truth that hits hard:

“All those days that came and went, little did I know that they were my life.”

A life spent just consuming—taking and taking with nothing to show—ends up chaotic and wasted.

Part 1: Habits Forge Who You Are

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Habits Forge Who You Are (Part 1/2)

“Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become. No single instance will transform your beliefs, but as the votes build up, so does the evidence of your new identity.” — James Clear

Zimbabwe voted for Robert Mugabe as President, electing a leader who promised liberation but later ruled with an iron fist. His policies devastated the economy, targeted white farmers and businesses that once bolstered employment, and plunged the nation into crisis, forcing many citizens to flee to South Africa and beyond. Yet, it was the people’s votes that placed him in power.

It is the same in our daily lives.

We vote and encourage and recommend things every minute and every hour. And yet, because of the intelligence or ignorance of our votes & choices, those things significantly influence us down the line and turn our lives into chaos or bliss.

Print this into your mind:

Every action I take is a vote for the type of person I wish to become.

Part 2: Habits Forge Who You Are Part 2

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Giving: A Life Well-Lived

 

Novel: A Little Princess by Frances Hodgson Burnett

If Nature has made you for a giver, your hands are born open and so is your heart. And though there may be times when your hands are empty, your heart is always full, and you can give things out of that—warm things, kind things, sweet things—help and comfort and laughter—and sometimes gay, kind laughter is the best help of all.

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Book: Simple Truths by Kent Nerburn

A fourth guideline to keep in mind is that money comes and goes. You must not be immobilized by the fear of losing it. 

No matter how you choose to deal with money, you need to keep one basic truth before you at all times: Money is nothing more than a commodity, an agreed-upon abstraction of exchange. It is the spirit of that exchange that animates money and gives it meaning. Great givers, rich and poor, use money to bring light into this world. Great hoarders, rich and poor, use money to close doors between us all. Be a giver and a sharer. In some unexpected and unforeseeable fashion, all else will take care of itself.

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Excitement and Enthusiasm

"The main thing that’ll get you ahead in life is your level of enthusiasm and excitement." — Robert Greene

The purpose of this record is to reflect on personal experience that may rekindle motivation and clarity for the reader.

In High School, it is some thing to play First Team sports or any competitive game in the first year of arrival, particularly the 8th grade, because you’re up against the 12th grade and/or the best athletes the school has to offer.

There’s a pattern to be studied from those who stand out in such a way and are selected to represent their teams from their initial arrival; it is their excitement for after-school training, and the enthusiasm they have for improving their skill outside of school hours, weekends, and holidays.

Simplified,

"You will be most successful where you are most intensely interested." - Charlie Munger, Businessman and Investor

It is a strong interest towards something that helps you get ahead in life — You are excited every day to practice that something, and you are way too enthusiastic about it to wait for a coach or parent to call you into practice.

You realize you’ve got the willpower to decide how much time, effort, and sacrifice you get to dedicate towards it — and with that realization comes results, and with results, dominance in your field. Because you will be sought after as an expert.

You move from ordinary (unskilled) to extraordinary (skilled).

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Youth, Age, and the Knowledge That Matters Most

 

When you’re young, you win with energy. When you’re older, you win with wisdom.

In youth, we must invest in both our careers and our personal development. Yet, many of us make the mistake of prioritizing only career milestones—degrees, promotions, job changes—while neglecting a deeper form of education: understanding human nature.

This kind of education isn’t found in textbooks on Accounting or Law. It comes from studying:

• Psychology – Mindset, biases, mental models, and self-awareness.
• Philosophy & Spirituality – Willpower, endurance, and the forces that shape our choices.
• Well-being – Physical and mental resilience through movement, rest, and emotional regulation.

Prioritizing this knowledge in youth allows us to thrive in later years. Without it, we risk making costly, sometimes irreversible, mistakes:

• Relationships – Ignoring red flags in partners, mistaking potential for reality.
  • Mindset teaches us to embrace difficult truths.
• Addiction & Dependency – Becoming trapped by harmful habits and those who profit from them.
  • Philosophy helps us distinguish between good and bad moral choices.
• Aging & Purpose – Retiring at 60 only to decline from lack of meaning and connection.
  • Well-being enables us to remain vibrant, active, and engaged in later life.

The biggest mistake is assuming that wisdom comes naturally with age. It doesn’t—it must be built early. A person who neglects self-education in youth may find themselves lost in adulthood, despite career success.

True winning is not just about financial security but about living with clarity, strength, and purpose at every stage of life. Start now.

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Fearless Pursuit: The Courage to Rise

“You just need to be smart enough to understand that your success is more about your courage than your intelligence.” — Orange Book

I define success—or greatness—as simply the ability to achieve your medium-to-long-term goals in a decisive, ideal, and sometimes public way. Public because, once achieved, your goals will inevitably attract both admirers and haters. Admirers because these goals are exceedingly difficult to reach. Haters because they will assume you cheated, got lucky, or had an unfair advantage.

How often do we, who were never mentored or groomed in psychology and mindset from a young age, convince ourselves that if we were smarter, faster, or prettier, we would have already attained the success we fantasize about—a happy home in the suburbs, a spot on the national team, a role on TV?

I cannot emphasize enough how detrimental this mindset is, because it blinds us to the most essential traits of success: Courage—self-belief, self-assurance, resilience, tenacity! These are the true cornerstones of achievement—the mental infrastructure required to handle success and the extraordinary responsibility that comes with it.

• With courage, you will show up every day to face your limitations.
• With self-belief, you will not compare yourself to those ahead of you.
• With self-assurance, you will speak your mind and let mistakes and failures pass through you, unshaken.
• With resilience, you will never give in to temporary defeat—you will rise, fiercer every time you fall. In fact, you will laugh at rejection and failure, because you carry seeds of divinity within you. You are one with the stars, and therefore, already successful as you are.
• With tenacity, you will prepare and perform with utmost confidence and aggression, showing no mercy toward internal or external incompetence.

“You don’t need a better computer to become a writer. You don’t need a better guitar to become a musician. You don’t need a better camera to become a photographer. What you need is to get to work.” — James Clear 

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Ryan Holiday -- Discipline is Destiny -- Part One

 

Practice . . . Then Practice More

It is said that the master swordsman Nakayama Hakudo would practice drawing his sword some two thousand times a day. At the Hayashizaki temple, in one marathon of endurance training, he was recorded drawing his sword ten thousand times in a single twenty-four-hour period. We can imagine the sheer speed required to do this . . . and also the deliberateness to do so many reps in so little time. But why would he do such a thing at all?

Because, as Octavian’s teacher Arius Didymus said,

  “Practice over a long time turns into second nature.”

We don’t rise to the occasion, we fall to the level of our training. The samurai Musashi was once challenged by a warrior named Miyake Gunbei, a man who thought himself one of the best in the world. On his third attack, frustrated by his lack of success, Gunbei charged at Musashi in an aggressive lunge. Musashi, having prepared for this exact scenario countless times, replied, “That is not what you should do,” then parried the blow with one sword and watched as the man gashed his own cheek against Musashi’s other sword.

How had he known? Practice.

"Cho tan seki ren" was Musashi’s phrase. Training from morning to night.

Oh, you’ve done that? Okay. Do it some more

And after that?

More. More. More.

“A thousand days of training to develop,” Musashi would write, “ten thousand days of training to polish.” 

For a samurai, there was no such thing as pretty good. If a pretty good swordsman met a better fighter . . . he would die. It’s like the basketball Hall of Famer Bill Bradley’s observation: When you are not practicing, refining, working —somewhere, someone else is . . . and when you meet them, they will beat you. Or kill you.

Look, this is not a drill. There is no greatness without practice.

Lots of practice.

Repetitive practice.

Exhausting, bone-crunching, soul-crushing practice. And yet what emerges from this practice is the opposite of those three feelings. Energy. Strength. Confidence. You deserve that. Yes, your body will burn, but that’s the evidence. From that burning comes real heat, heat you can apply to your craft, to your work, to your life.

No matter what you do, practice will make you better.

Only you know what it will look like to train in your art like a samurai, an Olympic athlete, a master in pursuit of excellence. Only you will know what you need to practice from morning until night, what to repeat ten thousand times.

It won’t be easy, but in that burden is also freedom and confidence.

The pleasure of the flow state. The rhythm of second nature. The quiet calmness of knowing that, from the practice, you’ll know exactly what to do when it counts . . . the pride and the dependability of doing it too.